What’s the difference between domestic partners and spouses?
Today I found out that because domestic partners are not recognized by the IRS, while I can get my partner insurance (entirely out of the goodness of the company’s heart), I can’t pay the portion of the premium that covers my partner pre-tax. If I could, I’d go down a tax bracket. For both of us to see a doctor, I’m now bringing home around 50% of my gross rather than 75% because I’m still getting taxed at a higher rate and yet not seeing as much money in my pocket.
“Separate but equal” isn’t. I’m staring at my calculator and my credit card bill and I’m too exhausted to find words to describe how fucking bigoted this is. My partner and I aren’t even in a homosexual relationship! But because we’re not legally married, we’re considered nothing to each other, total strangers who happen to cohabitate.
I suggest everyone try a long engagement period before marriage. It really gives you an appreciation for how wide the gulf between married and not-married is in our society. Married is a binary state in the USA, end of story. Domestic partnership is a joke of a label, a pat on the head meant to appease people who can’t get married.